Shibu Shivani
4 min readSep 18, 2020

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My take on LOVE

Recently one of my friends said, “Your heart has been broken multiple times. I am surprised that you still believe in love”. I smiled and just said “Yes, I do”. Some traits are genetically transferred to us, some we learn as kids from our parents and teachers. Life gives us a lot of lessons and experiences as we grow up but there are certain things, non-negotiable and ingrained in our natures which no force of the world can alter. For me, it is my belief in true love, in soulmates.

Why do I still believe in love, is a question that often crosses my mind too but now I know why do I still have faith in love, because I am just wired that way. No reason in this huge world is good enough for me to negate my belief in something as pure as love. Love as a concept has been twisted, bent and customized to suit different relationships. Money, fame, power, family background and a lot of other meaningless things have become key influencers in choosing whom to love. But for me, the concept is still simple — It isn’t love if you are putting a reason on it, if you love someone you will continue to love them irrespective of anything in this world.

I have heard so many of my friends complain that they once believed in love but they don’t anymore because someone brutally broke their heart. While I completely understand human tendency to stay away from things that hurt you, it is different in my case. My faith is love is much stronger and more meaningful to me than that person who hurt me. I can never place my own faith in something in another person’s hand. How can anyone on earth be so important to me that I allow that person to shake my core belief in something. I believed in love before I met anyone, then how can knowing someone make a difference in my thoughts. In a recent social media debate on feminism, a friend of mine said — “If you get a sum on Pythagoras theorem wrong, it doesn’t mean that the theorem is wrong, it just means that you didn’t understand it properly”. I was amazed at to how much this holds true even in the case of love. Just because one or two or three or ten people in the world didn’t understand love and you were unlucky enough to have dated them how can that mean love as a concept itself is bogus. Its like expecting lemons out of an orange tree and the n doubting the existence of lemons. Yes, you were unlucky, yes it hurts really bad, yes it makes you wanna stay away from getting hurt but what is life without risks? Do you not show up at the next job interview if you got rejected in the first one? Do you stop making friends if one friend hurts you? Do you stop trying if you fail in your project? Then why is love different, probably because it hurts much more than anything else.

I understand each and everyone who says they can’t fall in love again; I know the pain but here’s a little nudge from my side — this article was a mere attempt to tell you folks that someone leaving you isn’t the end of the world. Give love another chance, give it another try. This doesn’t mean you force yourself to love someone but if you really like someone and the only thing holding you back is a bad experience of the past, then it’s high time you should let go of it. Its high time you should be fair to the person who is currently in your life. You let them hurt you once by believing they loved you but you are also letting them hurt you by not believing that this beautiful soul loves you. If they are the reason, you don’t let love into your life, the power of your life is still in their hands. What harm can giving a chance to someone do? Worst case they leave you again, why are you scared of that? It just means another person who wasn’t right for you left your life but at least you tried. You took a risk. There was a probability of them being “the one”. If you take a risk there’s probably a 50 % chance of finding love but If you don’t, there’s a 0% chance of finding love.

Call me a hopeless romantic, call me the female version of Ted (HIMYM reference) but that’s who I am, that’s what keeps me going. My faith in true love, my belief in the magic of the universe, my trust that one day everything will work out. I can never change it because it is deeply etched in my soul and I urge everyone who read this to give it another thought, just like my favorite Ted Mosby says —

“If you’re not scared, you’re not taking a chance. If you’re not taking a chance, what the hell are you doing”

If you have someone in your mind right now, go ahead, go for her/him. Who knows? You’ll find your yellow umbrella :)

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Shibu Shivani

An Mba in Marketing. A Novice in Life. Trying to decipher life and to accept it in all its hues